Dating a minister
It is a normal, sensible part of intelligently seeking a life-long partner; not evidence of irresponsible fickleness.If not meeting with someone in his/her own congregation in which mutual ideas are most likely, where else and what better place should a minister look for prospective well-matched partners?They are not ordained beyond their ministerial duties which should also be from a position of service and humility, not from dominance and superior authority.Good question: The relationship of a minister and a member of the congregation is not the same as a supervisor and subordinate.
Before I met my boyfriend, you would have needed to pay a modest-to-large sum of money to get me to even set foot inside a church. Blame it on everything except my childhood exposure to Catholicism.
Although I wasn't aware of positive feelings toward Judaism when I met John (and completely ignored even Yom Kippur as a college student), the taboos from my childhood were just too strong, and my rebellious streak too wide, to buy into the Christianity of the surrounding culture.
I tried to become a Unitarian, but the particular Unitarian church I attended was a little too prim and proper for my 21-year-old self. Finally, in my second year of graduate school, I started attending a Reform temple.
Like many 20-somethings, my boyfriend is in grad school. To be specific, he'll be an ordained minister in the Presbyterian Church.
Yes, by the time he graduates, he'll be a card-carrying member of the clergy.
If they are both single and matched in age, they should be free to meet socially to get to know whether they may be compatible in other ways important to each of them.